Dr. Brene Brown Quotes on Shame + Courage

These Brene Brown quotes on shame will help you to overcome self-sabotaging beliefs so you can experience more happiness and lead your best life. Are you ready to show up and do some uncomfortable work? Brene Brown can help! 

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Brené Brown: Who She Is + Why We Love Her

Brene Brown is a research professor and best selling author. She has spent decades researching shame, and the concept that we need to move through it in order to experience happiness in our lives. She also shares important differences between shame and guilt. In fact, she says guilt is a good thing!  

Dr. Brown encourages us to see vulnerability as a strength, instead of a weakness, and to talk about shame, in order to heal it. 

I hope you find peace in these encouraging quotes. There’ll be no shame in your game by the time you finish the list!

Brene Brown Quotes on Shame

“What we don’t need in the midst of struggle is shame for being human.”

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“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”

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“You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.”

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“Shame is that warm feeling that washes over us, making us feel small, flawed, and never good enough.”

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“If we share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”

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“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.”

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“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.”

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“If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive.”

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“We desperately don’t want to experience shame, and we’re not willing to talk about it. Yet the only way to resolve shame is to talk about it.”

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“Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling.”

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Vulnerability

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

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“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”

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“Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.”

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“Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the magic sauce.”

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“Vulnerability is not about winning or losing. It’s having the courage to show up even when you can’t control the outcome.”

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“Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow – that’s vulnerability.”

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“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.”

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“If you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A. has done her work and, B. does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I’ll show you a guy who’s done his work and a man who doesn’t derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.”

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Daring + Courage

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”

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“As a shame researcher, I know that the very best thing to do in the midst of a shame attack is totally counterintuitive: Practice courage and reach out!”

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“Daring leaders work to make sure people can be themselves and feel a sense of belonging.”

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“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

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“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”

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“Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.”

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“When we find the courage to share our experiences and the compassion to hear others tell their stories, we force shame out of hiding, and end the silence.”

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“Courage is not staying quiet about things that make us uncomfortable.”

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“When we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.”

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Brene Brown Quotes on Shame Vs Guilt

“I believe that if we want meaningful, lasting change we need to get clear on the differences between shame and guilt and call for an end to shame as tool for change. That also means moving away from labeling.”

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“Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.”

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“I believe that guilt is adaptive and helpful – it’s holding something we’ve done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort.”

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“Guilt is good. Guilt helps us stay on track because it’s about our behavior. It occurs when we compare something we’ve done – or failed to do – with our personal values.”

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Leadership

“Leadership is not about titles or the corner office. It’s about the willingness to step up, put yourself out there, and lean into courage. The world is desperate for braver leaders. It’s time for all of us to step up.”

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“Show up for people in pain and don’t look away.”

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“Daring leaders must care for and be connected to the people they lead.”

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“A brave leader is someone who says I see you, I hear you. I don’t have all the answers, but I’m going to keep listening and asking questions.”

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“Write a new ending for yourself, for the people you’re meant to serve and support, and for your culture.”

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“I define a leader as anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.”

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Happiness

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”

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“Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.”

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“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

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Books by Brene Brown

These Brene Brown quotes on shame, vulnerability, and courage are taken from her books. Here’s a list of her most popular work, with the Amazon description from each:

Daring Greatly

The number one New York Times best seller. Here’s an excerpt:

 “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; …who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” (Theodore Roosevelt) 

“When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.” 

Dare To Lead

Named one of the best books of the year by Bloomberg. Here’s an excerpt:

“Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas and has the courage to develop that potential.  

When we dare to lead, we don’t pretend to have the right answers, we stay curious and ask the right questions. We don’t avoid difficult conversations and situations, we lean into vulnerability when it’s necessary to do good work.”  

The Gifts of Imperfection

Another New York Times bestseller, Dr. Brown offers ten guideposts for finding worthiness and releasing self  consciousness. 

 

The Power of Vulnerability

Is vulnerability the same as weakness? “In our culture,” teaches Dr. Brené Brown, “we associate vulnerability with emotions we want to avoid such as fear, shame, and uncertainty. Yet we too often lose sight of the fact that vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love.” On The Power of Vulnerability, Dr. Brown offers an invitation and a promise – that when we dare to drop the armor that protects us from feeling vulnerable, we open ourselves to the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Here she dispels the cultural myth that vulnerability is weakness and reveals that it is, in truth, our most accurate measure of courage.

XO,  Andrea

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