Cutting Cords: 6 Ways to Recall Your Energy

Today I’m sharing 6 spiritually responsible ways to cut cords of attachment. So if you feel ready to move on from a relationship, but the feeling isn’t mutual, then read on. These cord cutting rituals will help you cut toxic ties and recall your energy.

You are an energetic being! So when you make a connection with someone, you form an energetic bond. Often these connections, or cords, are wonderful.

You may know the feeling of being completely in sync with your partner, a sibling, or closest friends. But there are some connections that you’d prefer to break.

Sometimes, even when you create physical distance from someone, you still feel energetically tied to them. That’s where cutting cords can help you.  

Cutting cords removes negative connections you have to other people. As you make a practice of severing these unwanted attachments, you’ll begin to feel lighter, healthier, and more like yourself. It’s time to call your energy home! Let’s get started.

What Is Cord Cutting

Cutting cords is the process of severing negative connections that keep you energetically tied to another person. Negative cords can be formed with anyone, even people you love.

Here are some examples of cords you may want to cut:

  • people you want completely out of your life  
  • social media followers who have attached to you without your knowledge  
  • loved ones who are sources of drama   
  • those in your life who are needy, envious, or have bad intentions toward you

It’s important to note that cord cutting is all about breaking NEGATIVE ties.

Bonds of pure love can never be broken, so it’s safe to cut cords of attachment even with people you deeply care for. You’ll still be connected, just in a healthier way. Think of cord cutting as a way to set energetic boundaries for yourself. 

How To Identify Energy Cords (Cords of Attachment)

So how do you know if you have an energy cord with someone that needs to be cut? Here are some signs to look for:

  • They emotionally drain you
  • When you think of them, they contact you out of nowhere, or 
  • They pop into your head for no reason
  • You fear running into them, or feel the need to avoid them   
  • The person is at top of mind right now, as you’re reading up on cord cutting – trust your intuition! 

When it comes to the people you know, the need to cut cords is usually pretty obvious. But it’s totally possible to have picked up cords that you’re not even aware of.

With this said, it’s not necessary to know where all of your cords are coming from. Cord cutting is all about intention. So if you simply focus on cleaning up any/all negative ties, that’s enough. 

When To Cut Energy Cords

If you received the impulse to cut cords, then now is the perfect time! This is your intuition at work.

But if you want to amp up your intentions to release toxic ties, then consider doing your cord cutting ceremony during the full moon.

What is the Purpose of Cord Cutting?

A cord cutting ritual is a spiritual ceremony used to break energetic connection between yourself or an object and another person, place or thing.

This type of ceremony uses visualization and intention to help you release any negative energies that may be blocking your path or limiting your growth.

You have several options for your cord cutting ritual. Let’s find you the perfect one!

How To Cut Energy Cords

There are several ways to cut cords of attachment.

Use your own intuition based on the situation to determine which method is best for you. All of these cord cutting rituals should be done with reverence and love, for the greatest good for all involved.

Your own unique touch and intentions, combined with any of the methods below will create the perfect energetic cord cutting ceremony for you.

1. Smudging

Smudging, or burning sage is a tried-and-true method for spiritual cleansing. Indigenous Americans have been smudging (or burning dried herbs) to banish negativity for centuries.

You’ll Need:

You can buy these things individually or grab a smudge kit that has everything for around $20 or so.

Method: Pull back the twine that binds your bundle, so it doesn’t catch fire. Hold your sage bundle at a 45-degree angle in your non-dominant hand and light it.

After about 10 seconds, blow out the flame you created, and allow the embers to continue burning. The smoke will rise from the bundle.

Pick up your feather with your dominant hand, and make circular sweeps with it, wafting the smoke toward your face, neck and chest area.

You can waft the smoke through your home to clear all negativity from your surroundings. 

While you’re smudging, affirm:

I cut all negative cords of connection and recall my energy now. May all negativity be cleared from my sacred space and returned to the earth for healing.” 

Then, place the sage bundle in its shell and let it burn out on its own.

woman burning sage
Smudging with sage is an effective way to cut energetic cords. Light your herb bundle, then let the smoke waft over your body for a few moments. You can direct the smoke to cleanse your aura with your hand or use a feather. Focus on cleansing and purifying your own energy field as you work. If you’re concerned about the smoke factor, sit by a window or do your smudging outdoors.

2. Freezer Method

This method carries a vibe of ‘finality’. So if you’re just dealing with a pesky loved one with boundary issues, choose a different option. This is option best for ending relationships.  

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Write the person’s name on a piece of paper. Hold the paper in your hands and affirm: I am grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from this person and am ready to release them fully. All cords of attachment are now frozen.

Fold the paper up, place it in a bag, and bury it in the back of your freezer. This is a powerful and symbolic gesture that will help break unhealthy patterns from repeating themselves. 

3. Ask Archangel Michael to Cut Cords

Archangel Michael is an absolute master at cutting cords. His job is to protect and serve! He’s often shown holding a flaming sword with a blue flame – the perfect cord cutting gear! 

If you’re comfortable working with angels, try this cord cutting prayer. 

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Method: In the privacy of your mind before sleep or during meditation, call on Archangel Michael.

You are welcome to use your own words, but here is the cord cutting prayer that I use: 

Archangel Michael, please cut all energetic cords that do not serve me. I trust your judgement completely as you sever all ties that drain my energy. Thank you for this gift.”  

4. Take a Salt Bath

Salt is another natural element that helps to draw out negativity. If you’re a bath person, this is definitely the most enjoyable way to cut cords!

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Method: Draw yourself a bath, adding about 1/2 cup of Epsom salts to the water (you can use sea salt as a substitute) and 4-5 drops of lavender oil. You may also choose to light a candle, surround yourself with crystals or even burn your sage while you bathe.

As you soak in the tub, set your intention to wash away all cords that don’t serve you. When you drain the bath water,  envision all the negative energy you’ve released going down the drain.

tray atop a filled bath tub holding a candle, rose quartz, epsom salts, and bottle of lavender
A warm bath is the perfect environment to set intentions for your fresh start. Did you know certain candle colors help you manifest specific things? White is a good choice for cord cutting rituals.

5. Cutting Cords Using Visualization

Do you meditate? If so, give a cord cutting visualization a try. You can even combine this visualization with any of the other methods above.

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Method:  Once you’re in a meditative state, scan your body with the intention of identifying any cords of attachment.

Where do you sense them?

Can you see or feel who’s on the other end?

If the answer is no, that’s perfectly okay. Lovingly visualize those cords being broken, your half returning to you for healing, and the other half returning to the other person, also for healing. 

6. Cord Cutting Affirmations

Another way to cut energetic cords of attachment is to use cord cutting affirmations. These are simply statements that capture the essence of what you want to become true.

It’s important when you work with affirmations that you focus on what you want, and not what you don’t.

For example, if you’re going through a breakup, don’t say something like:

“I will never see my ex again”. 

This is all about what you DON’T want. Affirmations work because law of attraction will always bring you experiences to match what you’re thinking. So when you focus on fear/annoyance/escape, then you’ll become a magnet for experiences that make you feel that way – yuck!

Instead, try cord cutting affirmations like these:

  • I let go of the past and eagerly look forward to the future.
  • There is no limit to what I can create for myself next.
  • I fully claim my personal power.
  • I lovingly release everything that no longer serves me.
  • My mind is a powerful force and I use it to create beautiful new experiences.
  • I stand firmly in my own power.
  • My timing and actions are divinely guided.
  • I am protected, safe, and lovingly guided in every moment.
  • My energetic body is returning to perfect balance.
  • I focus on thoughts and feelings that align with my desires going forward.
  • My lessons are complete, and I forgive and release all who offered me challenges.
  • I give myself permission to redefine myself as I see fit.
  • It is my intention to move forward with joy.
  • All of my power is in the present moment.
  • I give thanks for my newfound wisdom.
  • This life is mine to create, and I embrace my upgrades now. 
  • I need no one’s permission or approval but my own.
  • I will use my life experience to uplift others on my path.
  • The Universe, passed loved ones, and my entire spirit team are lighting my path forward. 
  • I am an ever-changing work of art.

For more affirmations, check these out, too: 95 Powerful Affirmations for Letting Go + Moving On

How to Use Your Cord Cutting Affirmations

You can use these cord cutting affirmations as you do one of the other rituals in this post, or here are some other ideas:

woman meditating cross legged on the floor next to a white candle
You don’t need to get too fancy with your cord cutting ritual, unless you want to. The true power of any ritual comes from the intentions you hold in your heart. 💖You can simply light a candle, get comfy, and say your cord cutting affirmation with feeling. The Universe will swoop in and take care of the rest.💫

How Do You Know Cord Cutting Worked?

When energy cords have been cut, you will no longer sense energy flowing between you and the other person. In other words, you won’t think of them as often. And when you do, there won’t be any emotion attached to the thought. When you reach this level, it means you’ve fully reclaimed your power and freedom! 

Sometimes cords of attachment can run deep.

So it’s perfectly normal to have to repeat these rituals more than once. Each time, set your intention to call your energy home, and you’ll make continual progress. It can take time, but your mind is incredibly powerful. You can do this! 

How Does Cord Cutting Affect the Other Person?

Of course, we all have free will. So it’s a common misconception to think that you’re “controlling” another person when you cut energy cords with them. Instead, you’re really taking control of your own energy, and that changes how the other person interacts with you.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you are probably already familiar with the law of attraction. If not, read this next because it’ll seriously change your life: What Is Law of Attraction? Intro To Manifesting

But in a nutshell, your cord cutting ceremony will help you set clear intentions and adjust your vibration. Your thoughts are powerful!

So when you decide to move toward freedom, independence, and power, your vibration will naturally rise. As a result, you are no longer a vibrational match to the other person.

This means the two of you are no longer energetically in sync. It’s like you’ve just scrambled your signal and they can no longer pick up on your energy.

Keep in mind, the other person will not be consciously aware that something’s changed. Instead, they’ll likely experience the items listed below.

If you want to learn more about how your vibration determines the people who show up in your life, read this next: Energy Vibrations Between People: Who Are You Manifesting?

Cord Cutting Effects On The Other Person

Your timing won’t match up. Doesn’t it feel like whenever you’re trying to avoid someone, they keep popping up wherever you are? This is because of law of attraction!

Whenever you resist something (or someone) strongly, it makes you a vibrational match to that thing because you’re giving it so much attention.

After your cord cutting ritual, this person won’t be on your mind, which means you’re less likely to keep drawing them into your life.

They’ll be guided toward different people. It takes time to break toxic patterns, but eventually the other person is not going to feel as comfortable engaging in drama with you, because your energy has shifted.

When you stop feeding their need for negative attention, they’ll seek it out with someone else.

You’ll be on their mind less often. This may take a bit of time, but it’s not something you need to worry about. Your work is to trust the process.

Eventually they will naturally begin to drift away (or, they’ll at least stop bringing the drama, if this is someone you want to keep in your life).

Remember, there’s no need to worry about the other person when you’re cutting cords. If cutting ties is in your best interest, then in spiritual truth, it’s in their best interest as well.

What Happens After Cord Cutting

Okay! So you’ve completed your cord cutting ritual and you’re ready to move forward. Now what? This is the time to focus on your own healing and self-care, especially in these areas:


When you get tangled up in a toxic relationship it can take a real toll on your sacral chakra. This energy center holds all your experiences that happen in your one-on-one relationships.

So if your partner was overpowering you, or if you need to heal from sexual trauma, now is the time for sacral chakra healing.

There are lots of easy ways to bring yourself relief in this area. Here is some related reading to continue your healing process:


Toxic people can really shine a light on our insecurities.

So if the situation that lead you to cord cutting has made you feel powerless, unworthy, or unsure of your abilities, then your solar plexus chakra is crying out for healing.

You deserve all the best in life! Now is the perfect time to keep this empowerment streak going. These posts will help you to feel strong, confident, and capable:

Heart Healing

If this situation has hurt your heart, then now more than ever, you deserve some heart chakra healing. This is an important step, so be sure to take all the time you need. Be sure to work your heart healing and self-love practices into your daily routine. These articles will help:

I hope these tools help you to feel free! What experiences have you had with cord cutting? Leave a reply and share!

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XO,  Andrea

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Andrea Scalisi

Andrea has been practicing Astrology, Numerology, and Tarot for many years. She is a certified Aromatherapist and Reiki Master in Central NY, and also holds a Masters Degree from Syracuse University. Andrea loves helping her readers bring more spiritual self-care into their lives.

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10 thoughts on “Cutting Cords: 6 Ways to Recall Your Energy”

  1. Omg thank you so much for all this information. I feel so much lighter now. I have a few questions though: I have heard you can also cut cords on people you have great relationships with, just to keep the relationship in this great state. Is that true? And I am using the archangel Michael prayer, but what else can I do for proper chakra cleansing except for salt baths?

    • Chay, I’m so glad you found this post helpful! 💛Yes, you can do cord cutting on loves ones. Ties of love can never be broken so it’s perfectly safe, and especially helpful after an argument, or if they’re going through a rough patch and you’ve absorbed some of their lower energies. Chakra healing is a beautiful add-on to any of these cord cutting practices. You might try a guided meditation that includes that. This is a free one from Insight Timer that you might like!

  2. I really appreciate this article. It’s SO attuned to what I needed I have to think the vibe connected reader to content. Thank you!

  3. Cutting cord with my ex helped me set clear boundaries with him and allowed me to move forward in life. We need to deal with each but don’t need our energies involved so this was a great way for me to put my foot down and say I’ve had enough.

  4. Thank you for posting this! I have a question when can I take the bag out of the freezer, and when I do, what should I do with it?

    • You are most welcome, Cita! I would leave the name in the back of the freezer indefinitely, until you forget about it. But if you feel guided, or if you come across it down the road and feel no emotional reaction when you think of the person, you can toss it in the trash at that point. This is a great question and I will update the article with this info! XO


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