You are an energetic being. So when you make a connection with someone, you form an energetic bond. Often these connections, or cords, are wonderful.
You may know the feeling of being completely in sync with your partner, a sibling, or closest friends. But there are some connections that you’d prefer to break. Sometimes, even when you create physical distance from someone, you still feel energetically tied to them. That’s where cutting cords can help you.
Cutting cords removes negative connections you have to other people. As you make a practice of severing these unwanted attachments, you’ll begin to feel lighter, healthier, and more like yourself. It’s time to call your energy home! Let’s get started.
What Is Cord Cutting
Cutting cords is the process of severing negative connections that keep you energetically tied to another person. Negative cords can be formed with anyone, even people you love. Here are some examples of cords you may want to cut:
- people you want completely out of your life
- social media followers who have attached to you without your knowledge
- loved ones who are sources of drama
- those in your life who are needy, envious, or have bad intentions toward you
It’s important to note that cord cutting is all about breaking NEGATIVE ties. Bonds of pure love can never be broken, so it’s safe to cut cords of attachment even with people you deeply care for. You’ll still be connected, just in a healthier way. Think of cord cutting as a way to set energetic boundaries for yourself.
How To Identify Energy Cords (Cords of Attachment)
So how do you know if you have an energy cord with someone that needs to be cut? Here are some signs to look for:
- They emotionally drain you
- When you think of them, they contact you out of nowhere, or
- They pop into your head for no reason
- You fear running into them, or feel the need to avoid them
- The person is at top of mind right now, as you’re reading up on cord cutting – trust your intuition!
When it comes to the people you know, the need to cut cords is usually pretty obvious. But it’s totally possible to have picked up cords that you’re not even aware of. With this said, it’s not necessary to know where all of your cords are coming from. Cord cutting is all about intention. So if you simply focus on cleaning up any/all negative ties, that’s enough.
When To Cut Energy Cords
If you received the impulse to cut cords, then now is the perfect time! This is your intuition at work.
But if you want to amp up your intentions to release toxic ties, then consider doing your cord cutting ceremony during the full moon. You can find the full moon schedule for the year here: 2022 Full Moon Calendar: Names, Dates & Times
You may also want to check out Moon Phase Meanings (For Manifesting). It will tell you exactly how mama moon can help with your release work.
How To Cut Energy Cords
There are several ways to cut cords of attachment. Here are the top 5 ways to break those unwanted ties and recall your energy. Use your own intuition based on the situation to determine which method is best for you. All of these cord cutting rituals should be done with reverence and love, for the greatest good for all involved.
Smudging, or burning sage is a tried and true method for spiritual cleansing. Indigenous Americans have been smudging (or burning dried herbs) to banish negativity for centuries. A modern, and safer version, is to use a liquid smudge spray. We’ll explore both here.
Let’s start with traditional smudging.
You can buy these things individually, or grab a smudge kit that has everything for around $20 or so.
Method: Pull back the twine that binds your bundle so it doesn’t catch fire. Hold your sage bundle at a 45 degree angle in your non-dominant hand and light it. After about 10 seconds, blow out the flame you created, and allow the embers to continue burning. The smoke will rise from the bundle. Pick up your feather with your dominant hand, and make circular sweeps with it, wafting the smoke toward toward your face, neck and chest area. You can waft the smoke through your home to clear all negativity from your surroundings.
While you’re saging, affirm: “I cut all negative cords of connection and recall my energy now. May all negativity be cleared from my sacred space and returned to the earth for healing.” Then, place the sage bundle in its shell and let it burn out on its own.
1B. Smudge Spray
If you live in an apartment (don’t want to set off the smoke detector) or if smoke bothers you, opt for a smudge spray instead.
- Clear The Air smudge spray
Method: Give the bottle a good shake and hold it at arm’s length. Close your eyes and mist your crown, face, neck, and chest while inhaling deeply. Exhale and repeat as you feel guided. In your mind, repeat the affirmation above, or the one that comes printed on the bottle. You can also use Clear The Air as a room spray: mist your front doorway, bedroom, or anyplace where you want to clear negative memories or emotions.
Clear The Air smudge spray contains sage, myrrh, wintergreen, and a sprinkle of sea salt to banish negative energy.
2. Freezer Method
This method carries a vibe of ‘finality’. So if you’re just dealing with a pesky loved one with boundary issues, choose a different option. This is best for ending relationships.
Write the person’s name on a piece of paper. Hold the paper in your hands and affirm: I am grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from this person, and am ready to release them fully. All cords of attachment are now frozen.
Fold the paper up, place it in a bag, and bury it in the back of your freezer. This is a powerful and symbolic gesture that will help break unhealthy patterns from repeating themselves.
3. Ask Archangel Michael to Cut Cords
Archangel Michael is an absolute master at cutting cords. His job is to protect and serve! He’s often shown holding a flaming sword with a blue flame – the perfect cord cutting gear! If you’re comfortable working with angels, try this cord cutting prayer.
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Method: In the privacy of your mind before sleep or during meditation, call on Archangel Michael. You are welcome to use your own words, but here is the cord cutting prayer that I use: Archangel Michael, please cut all energetic cords that do not serve me. I trust your judgement completely as you sever all ties that drain my energy. Thank you for this gift.”
4. Take a Salt Bath
Salt is another natural element that helps to draw out negativity. If you’re a bath person, this is definitely the most enjoyable way to cut cords!
Method: Draw yourself a bath, adding about 1/2 cup of Epsom salts to the water (you can use sea salt as a substitute) and 4-5 drops of lavender oil. You may also choose to light a candle, surround yourself with crystals or even burn your sage while you bathe.
As you soak in the tub, set your intention to wash away all cords that don’t serve you. When you drain the bath water, envision all the negative energy you’ve released going down the drain.
5. Cutting Cords Using Visualization
Do you meditate? If so, give a cord cutting visualization a try. You can even combine this visualization with any of the other methods above.
- A space to rest comfortably, uninterrupted
- Your favorite crystals are optional
Method: Once you’re in a meditative state, scan your body with the intention of identifying any cords of attachment. Where do you sense them? Can you see or feel who’s on the other end? If the answer is no, that’s perfectly okay. Lovingly visualize those cords being broken, your half returning to you for healing, and the other half returning to the other person, also for healing.
How Do You Know Cord Cutting Worked?
When energy cords have been cut, you will no longer sense energy flowing between you and the other person. In other words, you won’t think of them as often. And when you do, there won’t be any emotion attached to the thought. When you reach this level, it means you’ve fully reclaimed your power and freedom!
Sometimes cords of attachment can run deep. So it’s perfectly normal to have to repeat these rituals more than once. Each time, set your intention to call your energy home, and you’ll make continual progress. It can take time, but your mind is incredibly powerful. You can do this!
How Does Cord Cutting Affect The Other Person?
Of course, we all have free will. So it’s a common misconception to think that you’re “controlling” another person when you cut energy cords with them. Instead, you’re really taking control of your own energy, and that changes how the other person interacts with you.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you are probably already familiar with the law of attraction. If not, read this next because it’ll seriously change your life: What Is Law of Attraction? Intro To Manifesting
But in a nutshell, your cord cutting ceremony will help you set clear intentions and adjust your vibration. Your thoughts are powerful! So when you decide to move toward freedom, independence, and power, your vibration will naturally rise. As a result, you are no longer a vibrational match to the other person. This means the two of you are no longer energetically in sync. It’s like you’ve just scrambled your signal and they can no longer pick up on your energy.
Keep in mind, the other person will not be consciously aware that something’s changed. Instead, they’ll likely experience the items listed below.
Cord Cutting Effects On The Other Person
- Your timing won’t match up – doesn’t it feel like whenever you’re trying to avoid someone, they keep popping up wherever you are? This is because of law of attraction! Whenever you resist something (or someone) strongly, it makes you a vibrational match to that thing because you’re giving it so much attention. After your cord cutting ritual, this person won’t be on your mind, which means you’re less likely to keep drawing them into your life.
- They’ll be guided toward different people – it takes time to break toxic patterns, but eventually the other person is not going to feel as comfortable engaging in drama with you, because your energy has shifted. When you stop feeding their need for negative attention, they’ll seek it out with someone else.
- They won’t think of you as frequently – this may take a bit of time, but it’s not something you need to worry about. Your work is to trust the process. Eventually they will naturally begin to drift away (or, they’ll at least stop bringing the drama, if this is someone you want to keep in your life).
Remember, there’s no need to worry about the other person when you’re cutting cords. If cutting ties is in your best interest, then in spiritual truth, it’s in their best interest as well.
What Happens After Cord Cutting
Okay! So you’ve completed your cord cutting ritual and you’re ready to move forward. Now what? This is the time to focus on your own healing and self-care, especially in these areas:
When you get tangled up in a toxic relationship it can take a real toll on your sacral chakra. This energy center holds all your experiences that happen in your one-on-one relationships. So if your partner was overpowering you, or if you need to heal from sexual trauma, now is the time for sacral chakra healing.
There are lots of easy ways to bring yourself relief in this area. Here is some related reading to continue your healing process:
Toxic people can really shine a light on our insecurities. So if the situation that lead you to cord cutting has made you feel powerless, unworthy, or unsure of your abilities, then your solar plexus chakra is crying out for healing. You deserve all the best in life! Now is the perfect time to keep this empowerment streak going. These posts will help you to feel strong, confident, and capable:
- Ultimate Guide to Solar Plexus Chakra Healing
- 29 Solar Plexus Chakra Affirmations to Claim Your Power
If this situation has hurt your heart, then now more than ever, you deserve some heart chakra healing. This is an important step, so be sure to take all the time you need. Be sure to work your heart healing and self-love practices into your daily routine. These articles will help:
- Ultimate Guide to Heart Chakra Healing
- 31 Heart Chakra Affirmations for Soothing and Inner Peace
- How to Practice Self Love: 11 Life Changing Tips
I hope these tools help you to feel free! What experiences have you had with cord cutting? Leave a reply and share!
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