10 Best Essential Oils to Unlock Self-Love (by an Aromatherapist)

Unlocking self-love is a sacred journey towards embracing your true self and nurturing a positive mindset. And what better way to support this journey than through the power of essential oils? As an aromatherapist with years of experience, I have carefully handpicked the 10 best essential oils that can help you embrace self-love and cultivate a deeper sense of self-acceptance and appreciation.

Each of these essential oils possesses its own unique properties that can assist in fostering self-love. From the calming and grounding effects of lavender essential oil to the uplifting and confidence-boosting properties of rose essential oil, these natural aromatic wonders can be powerful allies on your path to self-discovery.

In this post, I will guide you through each of these essential oils, providing insights on their benefits, how to incorporate them into your daily routine, and the best techniques for maximum impact. So if you’re ready to embrace self-love and nurture your mind, body, and spirit, let’s dive into the world of these transformative essential oils together.

Understanding Self-Love

Self-love is not just a buzzword but a crucial aspect of your emotional and mental well-being. It is about accepting and loving yourself unconditionally, flaws and all. Self-love helps you build resilience, improve your relationships, and cultivate a positive outlook on life.

Unfortunately, many of us struggle with self-love due to societal pressures, past traumas, or negative self-talk.

That’s why incorporating essential oils into your self-care routine can be a game-changer. Essential oils have been used for centuries for their therapeutic properties, and they can help you release negative emotions, feel more relaxed and enjoy a stronger sense of inner peace.

When used correctly, essential oils can support your journey towards self-love and emotional healing quite beautifully.

How Essential Oils Promote Self-Love

Essential oils are highly concentrated plant extracts that contain potent aromatic compounds that can positively impact our physical, emotional, and spiritual health. When you inhale the aroma of an essential oil, it travels to the limbic system, the part of your brain responsible for emotions, memories, and motivation. This is why certain scents can trigger memories or emotions so powerfully.

There is a very strong connection between your emotions and your sense of smell! Using essential oils can leverage this connection to help you heal.

When we use essential oils for self-love, we are leveraging the power of aroma to shift our emotional state from negative to positive.

For example, if we’re feeling anxious or stressed, we can use lavender essential oil, which is known for its calming and sedative properties. Or if we’re feeling down and uninspired, we can use peppermint essential oil, which is refreshing and invigorating.

Here are my top 10 picks for essential oils for self love, along with their healing properties. Let your intuition guide you toward the ones that are best for you.

I’m also including links to my favorite oil brand: Rocky Mountain Oils. They are pure, effective, and reasonably priced. I use them myself.

1. Lavender

If you’re new to essential oils and just starting your collection, lavender is basically the Swiss army knife of essential oils. It is calming, grounding, and deeply soothing.

It also helps release tension, reduce anxiety, and promote restful sleep. So if you’re experiencing any anxiety or stress, lavender can help soothe your emotions and heal your heart.

2. Rose

Rose oil is a powerful tool for balancing the heart chakra. It’s uplifting, confidence-boosting, and helps to open your heart to love and healing. It also promotes compassion and forgiveness.

So if you tend to be overly harsh toward yourself, rose oil will help you to soften, and realize that you are worthy of your own loving kindness.

RMO rose oil

3. Heart Chakra Blend

Rose oil is incredible, but it can be pricy. As an alternative, I often use this heart chakra healing blend.

It contains rose, along with lime, spearmint and other uplifting oils that work together to bring healing to your heart chakra (and it’s much cheaper than straight rose oil).

4. Bergamot

Bergamot oil is a mood lifter. It really shines when it comes to soothing away stress and helping you to feel more energized. So, if you struggle with negative emotions, such as anger, frustration, and sadness, this is a good pick for you.

RMO bergamot oil

5. Ylang Ylang

 Ylang Ylang essential oil is deeply relaxing. It helps to promote self-acceptance, confidence, and even sensuality. So if you feel like it’s time to reconnect with your inner beauty, reach for this oil (it’s a less expensive alternative to jasmine).

Ylang Ylang smells sweet and exotic – and it promotes mindfulness. So if you struggle to keep your mind focused on the present moment, this is a perfect oil for you.

RMO ylang ylang essential oil

6. Frankincense Carterii

There are a few different flavors of frankincense oil. Frankincense Carterii really shines when it comes to feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and grief. So if your heart is hurting, this is a beautiful oil for you to work with.

7. Love Blend

The name says it all! This beautiful oil blend helps you to invite more affection, connection, and passion into your life.

Love oil blend opens your heart to deeper feelings and helps you release negative emotions that block love from flowing into your life. If you are open to attracting love in all forms, this is the perfect oil for you.

8. Sandalwood

Sandalwood essential oil is deeply grounding, centering, and balancing. It helps calm the mind, reduce anxiety, and promote a sense of inner peace.

So, if you feel like you need a little help finding your way home to yourself, reach for this oil. It can help light up your spiritual path so you can find meaning and clarity in your life. If it’s out of your price range, try their blend of sandalwood.

9. Peppermint

Peppermint essential oil is refreshing, invigorating, and energizing. It helps stimulate the mind, reduce fatigue, and promote mental clarity. So if you feel like you’re in a slump, this is the perfect oil for you. It also offers great support for communication, if you need a little extra help expressing what’s in your heart.

10. Cedarwood

Cedarwood essential oil is so calming. It grounds your energy and helps to relieve tension. When you’re working toward self love, one of the best things you can do is stay anchored in the moment.

This oil will help you find emotional balance. It’s very woodsy-smelling, and it has a similar effect on your nerves as a walk in the woods.

How To Use Your Self Love Oils

There are lots of ways to use essential oils for self-love and emotional well-being. Here are some of the most effective methods:

Diffusing: Add a few drops of your favorite essential oil to a diffuser and let it fill the room with its aroma. This is a great way to create a relaxing and uplifting atmosphere in your home or workspace.

Inhalation: Add a drop or two of essential oil to a tissue or cotton ball and inhale deeply. This is a quick and easy way to experience the benefits of essential oils on the go.

Topical application: Mix a few drops of essential oil with a carrier oil, such as coconut or jojoba oil, and massage it to your chest, at your heart center. This is a great way to enjoy the therapeutic benefits of essential oils while moisturizing your skin. Be sure to read the label to see if they need to be diluted first.

Pair with Affirmations: Have you ever worked with self-love affirmations? I have a bunch you can pick from. Choose a favorite from the list, write it down on paper and massage a drop of your self-love oil into the paper. Pop it under your pillow or carry it with you throughout the day.  

More Self-Love Practices

In addition to using essential oils, there are other practices you can incorporate into your self-care routine to enhance self-love and emotional well-being. Here are some ideas:

1. Mindfulness meditation: Take a few minutes each day to practice mindfulness meditation, which can help cultivate self-awareness, reduce stress, and promote emotional balance.

2. Gratitude journaling: Write down three things you’re grateful for each day, which can help shift your focus from the negative to the positive and foster a sense of gratitude and contentment.

3. Movement practices: Engage in movement practices, such as yoga, Pilates, or dance, which can help improve your physical and emotional well-being and promote self-acceptance.

4. Positive affirmations: Repeat positive affirmations, such as “I am worthy,” “I am enough,” or “I love and accept myself,” which can help reprogram negative self-talk and cultivate self-love.

By combining these practices with the use of essential oils, you can create a powerful self-care routine that supports your journey towards self-love and emotional healing.


Unlocking self-love is a journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and a commitment to self-care. By incorporating essential oils into your daily routine, you can support your emotional well-being, release negative emotions, and cultivate a deeper sense of self-love and acceptance.

Remember to choose high-quality, pure essential oils and follow safety guidelines to avoid adverse reactions. And don’t forget to combine essential oils with other practices that enhance self-love, such as mindfulness meditation, gratitude journaling, movement practices, and positive affirmations.

With the right tools and practices, you can unlock the power of self-love and embrace your true self with all its beauty and imperfections.

You are worthy of your own love, compassion, and acceptance, my friend! I’m sending you all the best on your journey.

XO, Andrea

10 Best Self Love Oils
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Andrea Scalisi

Andrea has been practicing Astrology, Numerology, and Tarot for many years. She is a certified Aromatherapist and Reiki Master in Central NY, and also holds a Masters Degree from Syracuse University. Andrea loves helping her readers bring more spiritual self-care into their lives.

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