Let’s talk about love affirmations! Positive affirmations are a powerful way to attract more love into your life. Whether you’re ready for a new partner or want to bump up the romance in your current relationship, these affirmations will help. Here’s the official short list of the only love affirmations you’ll ever need, and how to actually use them to get results.
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What Are Love Affirmations?
If you’ve already read What Are Affirmations? Definition + Examples for Self Care , you already know I expect you to make the mindset shifts that go along with these affirmations. Why? Because that’s how you’re going to get them to work for you!
Affirmations are a tool for recognizing and upgrading thought patterns that block you from attracting love. You deserve the romance of your dreams! So keep an open mind as you read these, and remember they are tools for clarity – not easy fixes. The results you see are going to be based on your dedication to improving your emotional state.
I offer two versions of each affirmation, so choose the ones that make you feel excited, open, and hopeful, not overwhelmed or doubtful. That’s going to be the key to your success. You can do this!
How Love Affirmations Work
What are your core beliefs around love? How would you typically describe your romantic life? The stories you tell yourself and others are affirmations. You might think your failed relationships have taught you to have negative beliefs about romance, and that may be true. But it’s also true that you’re attracting more negative relationships as a result of those beliefs. See? Affirmations do work! It’s time to upgrade the stories you affirm, so you can break self-sabotaging patterns.
Affirmations work by bringing your attention to new ways of thinking. With practice, these love affirmations will carve out new pathways in your brain. As a result, your approach to relationships will change, and your experiences will too. The shifts will be profound, and yes, they will feel magical! Let’s begin.
The road to romance begins with self love, so the top two in our list are self love affirmations.
Affirmations for Self Love
1) I am loveable.
Do you love yourself? This is the foundation for everything that builds up to manifesting love from others. You are absolutely lovable just as you are! So if you’ve accidentally adopted beliefs that you are somehow damaged or inferior, it’s time to kick that nonsense to the curb. Of course you’re worthy of receiving love. In fact, you teach others how to treat you based on you treat yourself. So in order to have lasting success in romance, you need to master this belief. The moment you start viewing yourself as worthy of love, everything will change.
If you need some help getting started, here are some ways you can practice self love:
- choose food and drinks that nourish your body and mind
- work on healing addictive behaviors
- honor your body’s requests for movement and rest
- commit to retiring negative self-talk
- take time to groom your body
- set personal boundaries (your partner’s needs are not more important than yours)
- if you suffer from low self esteem, focus on solar plexus chakra healing
If you aren’t feeling lovable, that’s okay. Give yourself credit for being honest with yourself, and work on implementing the upgrades listed above before using affirmation #1, and consider reading How to Practice Self Love: 11 Life Changing Tips.
Here is a more gentle version that you can start with as you work on bolstering your relationship to self:
Beginner’s Version: I am learning to love myself more each day.
2) I forgive myself.
You’ve probably noticed that so far, these affirmations focus totally on you. That’s because your internal heart healing is the first step of attracting a partner who will cherish you the way you deserve.
Are you beating yourself up over choices you made in the past? Take this as an opportunity to let yourself off the hook, my friend. It’s completely unfair to hold yourself to such high standards. Everyone makes mistakes, and you deserve to be granted a bit of grace. When you hold onto regret and guilt, you bruise your poor soul. Plus, this is no way to attract a loving partner! Are you willing to forgive yourself now that you know it’s blocking your ability to attract the loving relationship you want?
Remember that you are here to learn. So if you’ve absorbed the lessons that revealed themselves as part of your past, you have been successful. Be proud of your hard earned wisdom, and give yourself permission to release the rest. Forgiving yourself is the ultimate act of self love. If you’re not quite there yet, try this version of affirmation#2 instead:
Beginner’s Version: I’ve learned lessons from the past and it’s OK to move forward.
Affirmations For Relationships (the only ones you'll ever need)
3) All of my relationships are healthy and harmonious.
Can you think of a time when you settled for the company of someone simply because it was better than being alone? As you learn to love yourself more, you may notice shifts in some of your relationships. Characters in your life who aren’t genuinely invested in your well being will drift away, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s necessary because it means your bond with them was toxic. This is natural part of the healing process that will help you make room in your life for people who are ready to connect with you on a deeper level.
Change can be scary, even when you know it’s a sign that you’re healing. So if you read affirmation #3 and it triggers doubt, try this affirmation to start:
Beginner’s Version: It’s safe to let go of relationships that don’t bring me joy.
4) I release the past and forgive others.
Do you ever find yourself explaining all the things that went wrong with your last partner while you’re getting to know someone new? Here is your formal invitation to stop doing that! This behavior acts as romance repellent. Here comes another hard truth: you simply cannot focus on something negative from the past and expect to create something positive in the future. It’s against the universal law of attraction. You attract what you focus on.
Its unhealthy and unfair to compare new people in your life to your old partners. You may be convinced that being hyper-vigilant will help you avoid future disasters. But in reality, its just keeping your past trauma alive, which will suck the joy right out of your current experience. If this describes you, it’s simply a sign that you have an opportunity to do some forgiveness work, which you can read more about in this ultimate guide to heart chakra healing. Forgiveness may sound like a tall order if someone was cruel to you or betrayed your trust, but it’s important for two reasons:
- resentment keeps you energetically tied to that person, which blocks you from moving forward
- without forgiveness, you’ll drag old baggage into your new relationships and repeat history
All you need to do is get to a place where you can think of the topic without becoming upset. If you can do that much, you’ve healed enough to prevent yourself from sabotaging new relationships. The goal is to have the ability to express sincere gratitude for the wisdom you gained from your encounter with that other person, for the sake of your own inner peace.
Beginner’s Version: Every day I let the past go a little more. I focus on today.
Once you master affirmations 1-4, it won’t even be possible for you to attract a partner that would treat you so poorly. This brings us to the next affirmation.
5) My partner is a reflection of me.
Everything you experience in the external world is a reflection of your inner world. As you practice the mindset shifts we’ve discussed, your vibration will naturally begin to rise. As a result, you will attract more fulfilling relationships.
This affirmation also invites you to take a look at yourself in the role of partner. Do you wear yourself out trying to change your partner or control their actions? If so, it’s time to accept the truth that you cannot change anyone. Plus, people will resent you for trying. This may be an uncomfortable fact to face, but the more you can allow others to be their authentic selves around you, (even if you see room for improvement), the more freedom you’ll experience for yourself.
You’ll seriously be amazed by the beauty you bring out in others when give them this gift of acceptance. All healthy, lasting romances have plenty of room built in for their partner to breathe.
Beginner’s Version: I treat others the way I want to be treated.
6) My heart is open to new connections.
Finally, if you’ve been burned before, it can be difficult to let yourself connect with someone new. But the truth is, you can’t make meaningful connections while your guard is up. So this affirmation asks you to be brave and allow yourself to feel. Remember, your partner is a mirror of you, so if you’re guarded and defensive, you’re going to attract a partner who has emotional baggage too. When you commit to the mindset shifts in affirmations 1-5, this one will come to you naturally.
Beginner’s Version: I’m letting myself get closer to the people who care about me.
You deserve a life filled with love, romance, and sweetness. These affirmations for self love and romance will get you there, if you put in the time. In fact, every area of your life will benefit when you put these mindset shifts into practice.
Leave a comment below with your thoughts and experiences!
PS – Positive affirmations are just one way to manifest romance. For more ways to attract love into your life, read How to Manifest Your Desires next.
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